Leaping through the Portal

"I wonder if I've been changed in the night? Let me think. Was I the same when I got up this morning? I almost think I can remember feeling a little different. "

        Alice in Alice in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll

    Initially, my clients do an excellent job explaining to me how hard it feels to make the transformation they most desire.   What makes change seem possible for some and not others? While change can come about without prior thought or choice due to powerful circumstances which alter our lives, more often change occurs because we go to sleep or wake up saying that we need a shift in our life experience.  And more than just saying it, we are at a point where we feel it deep within that it is true and it is time for this transformation.  With this conviction, we are ready to begin moving the mountain of our notion of "what has always been" or "what should be" in our lives.    And most importantly, we have to want it, really want to experience life on a new path.
    Why?  Because this is BIG work.   It is awesome, energizing and exciting work and at the same time, SCARY work.  Why?  Because when we open ourselves up to the idea that a change in our actions is possible, we are also opening the door to a shift in our consciousness.   Unfortunately, we can be so  resistant to the unknown that we lead ourselves to believe one of the following ideas when contemplating a shift in our lives:

•  I don't want to take a risk, because what if it gets me into a worse place than I am in right now  or This is as good as it gets

•    I am not capable of making a change and I don't have the skill, talent, intelligence necessary to do so

•    I will probably fail or I might succeed and then what would happen?

•    What I want is not realistic or possible.  And who am I to think I deserve such change anyway?

   Let me just break it to you right now, all of these ideas are RUBBISH.  Yes, convincing, intimidating, and seemingly powerful, but when you get right down to it, they are simply rubbish talk.  How do I know this?   Look at the statements.  It is fear talking, not truth.  We know fear statements because they stop us in our tracks and not in a  warm and fuzzy way either.  Fearful thinking leads us to feeling crummy about ourselves and our potential.  When we are caught in the pattern of fear based decision making, we can not seem to find the road that leads out. 

    As we connect with our desire for transformation and a new way of living our lives, we are better able to remind ourselves,  "Hey, these are my fears talking not my truths," then we can continue on with  jumping  through a portal to a new world like Alice in the above quote.

   I call these opportunities to leap into a new way of being, PORTAL MOMENTS.  They are moments that open before us when we are able to push our fears back just enough that we can see the light of what we want and what we  know  deep within is possible, what we deserve, and how we want to live our days.  When we get to a portal moment we have a choice to make and it is pretty simple , though not necessarily easy.   The choice goes pretty much like this:

       A. JUMP                                  B.   NOT JUMP

   Sorry to break it to you, but as you've probably guessed, if we can make it this far...jumping is the name of the game.  The part of ourselves that desires change is going to make life pretty stinking difficult if we tell it to shush so that can opt out of jumping so we can go back to the status quo way we have been doing things.  Nope, once we have connected with the change that we know needs to be made--not making the change  becomes more painful  than weeding through our fears to jump.

    How do we jump?  We fill our heads with CHAMPION TALK not rubbish talk.  If we can imagine ourselves as the big winner standing on the podium waving the gold medal or huge trophy wildly above our heads, we can get the rubbish talk to begin to dissolve.  Using the previous statements, we can transform our energy about change by telling ourselves the following:

•  By taking this leap, I will live the life I want to be living.
  

•    I AM capable of making a change and I HAVE the skill, talent, intelligence necessary to do so

•    I will succeed and that means I will feel fulfilled, energized, and hopeful.

•    What I want IS realistic AND  possible.  I deserve this change in my life.

   With these positive ideas as our fuel, we have the opportunity to leap through the portal into the existence that before we thought was a dream or for someone else.    By filling our heads and hearts with champion talk rather than fear based rubbish talk we are better able to guide ourselves through the portal into the vision we desire.  And then like Alice in Wonderland says, we are able to proudly say "It's no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then."  For we have made the leap and are on a new journey.